Sybl A asked:


Hi. I am a 21 year old junior in college. I have never had a relationship, not even one of those short-lived high school ones. I am outgoing and friendly and have a wide variety of interests. I make efforts not to complain when something is bothering me (or talk too much) and I am a very successful student. I take good care of myself in terms of grooming habits, I wear a little bit of makeup, and I wear clothes that fit well. I make friends very easily and I am secure in most social situations as long as there are people I know around. I can make friends with men very easily, but I cannot get them to like me any more than that. The only ones whose attention I seem to get are the sleazy one-night-standers (who, by the way, have blatantly told me what they wanted). I am a moderate Christian woman and don’t believe in sleeping with someone just for the physical pleasure. I’ve met nice guys in church, but they are all taken. The only thing I wish that I could change about myself is my weight (slightly heavy), but I am not overly insecure about it. I’m not sure why I can’t ever get past the “friend” stage. I know that I don’t need a man to complete my life, but I would like to have one. Any suggestions?

Cole